Earlier, I explained how I decided not be angry at my mom anymore (see entry below). Just now, my mom asked what I had told Danny about my grandma's birthday event. I said that I told him the truth, that my mom didn't want him there. I really did. I sobbed over the phone and told him I didn't mean to hurt his feelings but...etc. I wouldn't have told him if I thought he would be upset. He wasn't upset since crazy illogical crap like this happens frequently with my family. Really, nothing suprises him anymore.

Anyway, so my mom was taken aback by the fact that I had been so brutally honest. She asked my why I said that, and I told her because I wanted to tell him the truth. I always tell him the truth. She said, well now he's going to feel bad. In translation, this means, "Now I feel bad for thinking and saying it."

This was just what I was hoping for. Parents make mistakes. My parents make many mistakes. (For the record, I do too.) They also don't really listen to me when I have important arguments to make, like that one I made that evening when I tried to explain to my mom how hurtful and ridiculous she was being. I knew it would take more than me just yappin at her for her to see my point. I think she gets it now. I don't really care that she feels bad, because she should. Her traditional, backwards thinking - that Danny's not yet family because we're not married, but my brother's girlfriends can be because they're simply my brother's girlfriends - needs to be fixed.

*sigh* Little by little.